ME TOO Children's Rights
(From Capt. Surender Malhan. We started this recently, work in progress..., Important to get the message out.)ME TOO Children's RightsIn everything we do, we should be Ethical, Moral, Just and Fair.We should have our Moral Compass correctly calibrated at all times.The best way to keep our Moral Compass correctly calibrated is by studying diligently the life and thoughts of great men and women like M.K. Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Dr. Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, Bishop Desmond Tutu, Mother Theresa, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Franklin, etc.We have one chance at Life. We come into this world only Once. Where do we come from, where do we go to, we don't know. All we know, all we have, is one Life on Earth. We must Live and let others Live. We come in Peace, we must live in Peace and exit in Peace! When we exit, we must leave behind an Earth which is a little better place, Materially and Morally. We must leave behind an Earth unpolluted by Hate and Violence.Hatred cannot be conquered by hatred, but only by Love. An Eye for an Eye will make everyone Blind!We are born Human. We have two choices-how to live life. Some choose to live life as a Human Being, and sadly many choose to live life as a Predator. Anyone who is Unethical, Immoral, Unjust and Unfair - is in some way, shape or form - a Predator preying on others.A farmer sows corn, corn germinates, weeds germinate too. If the farmer does not de-weed periodically, 'weeds' increase in number and soon overrun the farm. Who is to be blamed? The 'weed' or the 'farmer'? In our world Good is on the decline and Evil is on the rise. Who is to be blamed? The Good is to be blamed, for the Good did not 'de-weed' periodically - the Good did not uproot Evil in time. For Evil to survive and flourish it is only necessary for the Good to do nothing.Every religion, every "human being" says - we must not turn a blind eye to Evil and Injustice!"Civilization is created and maintained by the competent few." “From among the masses shall rise a few who will take it upon themselves, the responsibility of carrying the burden of mankind!” Great People are like Stars designed to burn so the Earth may be illuminated.What is the formula for Success? No matter what field, the formula for Success is the same: Success = Courage + Intellect + Integrity + Teamwork. Lasting peace, progress, prosperity is always built on a foundation of Integrity.We must measure success not through wealth but through Service rendered and Character.We need Courage to dare to do the right thing. We need Intellect to come up with the best and most cost effective solutions. We need Integrity to stay on the path of Humanity. And we need TeamWork! We can never do it all alone! TeamWork is very important. When it comes to fighting Evil and Injustice, the best example of "TeamWork", that comes to my mind, is of the "Tank Man" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tank_Man. On June 5, 1989, the day after the Chinese military had suppressed the Tiananmen Square protests, an unidentified Chinese man stood in front of a column of tanks, temporarily stopping their advance. Today, we dont know who, where or what has become of this Tank Man. Why? If thousands, millions from the crowd of protestors had stepped forward and stood in front of the Tanks, then all Tank Men and Tank Women would be "SAFE".
Study the freedom movement in India led by MK Gandhi. Study the Civil Rights movement led by Dr. Martin Luther King. The human cost that comes from retaliation by forces of Evil will always be there, but it will be much less, when millions of people come together peacefully and peacefully fight Evil, Injustice, Crime and Corruption.
We need to Hate the Sin, NOT the Sinner. At all times, bear no malice. Don't let negative feelings of anger, hatred, jealousy, resentment, retaliation,.., enter our heart. Do not enter a room thinking of and looking at the other person as an adversary. At all times bring Positive energy into the room. In our heart, mind and soul always have Positive energy. M.K. Gandhi said - "Instead of complaining about the darkness light a candle." Life is Unfair, accept it! Accept that human beings can be inhuman and evil. At times we may have to accept this as calmly as the millions who calmly waited in line for their turn to enter the Gas Chambers in Nazi Concentration Camps. MK Gandhi said, "for a just cause, we should be prepared to die!" Sometimes the Evil and Injustice perpetrated by Evil Individuals, Gangs and Evil Governments can be such that peaceful protestors have to be prepared to die. And always, there is strength and safety in numbers. Be eager to listen and learn. Listen with empathy. Be honest. Be sincere. Humility is very important. What I admire most about men and women like MK Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Dr. Martin Luther King, George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, etc., is their Humility. Their entire focus was on "Service", how to serve, how to contribute!
Every day we must count our blessing. Think! Let us merely visualize just one minute in the life of a Soldier on the battle field - The Revolution, Gettysburg, Civil War, WW-I, WW-II, Vietnam, Korea, Iraq, Afghanistan, and many-many more. How many or us would want to be there on that battle field for mere one minute? We have got our "Freedom" for free! Think how easy it is to protect and preserve our freedom, as compared to the incredible cost of getting it back, if we were to lose it. Think of the millions of soldiers on the battlefield who gave it their all, what if they could see, that we cannot take out even 30 minutes, from the comfort of our home, to reach such write-ups, we cannot speak up, we cannot write an email or a letter to our elected representatives.
ME TOO Children's Rights -- (In my write up below when I write -- he, him, himself, etc., depending on context, I am referring to all genders, not just a male child.)Once upon a time, every adult was a child. We all enter this world as a baby. As an adult, we should never forget, what we expected from parents and adults, when we were a child. As a child, from every adult we expected Love and Trust - that we could trust them, that we are safe with them. What is worse sin than rape? Betrayal of Trust! People who lie, cheat, steal may still qualify to be called human beings. But people who betray another's human being's trust, do not qualify to be called human beings. And a human being who betrays a child's trust is even more lower. What kind of character, what kind of moral fiber does a person have to have - to betray a child's trust; and to bully, exploit, abuse and torture a child.We are all a product of our environment. Behind every predator stands a parent who has failed to give upbringing to the predator when he himself was a child. Behind every predator stands a team of teachers, education system and community - which has failed. Parenting: Children come through us (parents), but they don't belong to us. As parents we are here to love them, nurture them; to guarantee them their inalienable rights - to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness.A child cannot speak up for himself. A child cannot fight for his rights. Children are easy targets for Vultures and Predators.Predators, like Vultures, are always looking for the sick, the young and the dying.Some children are abused and exploited by their parents.
The child is protected best from external predators when both parents are united and committed to loving and protecting their child. Children who have lost one or both parents are very easy targets for predators. When Predators see a parent unable to protect their child, then Predators take their evil acts to a whole new level. It gives them a free rein to do anything they want to the child.
Childhood is the most important phase in a human beings life. Childhood experiences have very far reaching impact. Childhood trauma can often change the entire trajectory of a child's life - as a child and as an adult.Protecting children from any form of abuse is the responsibility of every adult in the society. If we see something, we must dare to say something.It is sad, since the first human being set foot on earth, children have been taken advantage of; they have been exploited, abused, molested, tortured and have been victims of all kinds of crimes.There are so many different categories of crimes against children - these crimes are well known, well documented and studied, and there are laws to help bring the criminals to justice.But there are certain crimes against children, that the vast majority of us do not know about. The world at large, is totally unaware of these. These are crimes against children in Family Courts all over the world. At any given time, there are at least over 20 million victims in the U.S., alone, and well over 200 million all over the World. Even if the statistics says "one", -- why should that be allowed to happen. Would you like to be that one? Would you ever wish that your child, or you as a child should be a victim of crime?
Let us analyze, what is the most powerful recipe for turning a Human Being into a Predator? "Power, Secrecy and Money!"In fact "Secrecy" alone has the most powerful effect in destroying the human soul, in flushing out from a person's heart all human values completely. Tell a person that, "what ever you do will be 100% secret for the rest of your life on Earth", after that, the chances, that the person will very soon metamorphose into a Predator is virtually 100%. With Secrecy the transformation of human soul into a Predator happens extremely rapidly.
Let us dare to ask this question - which Organization can most easily get transformed into a Predatorial Organization? In which Organization are we most likely to find Predators?The brilliant Nobel Prize winning Physicist Paul Dirac said, "Ask the right questions and we will get the right answer."Let us ask the right questions. Which Organization has the most Secrecy? Which Organization has the most Power? Which Organization has the most Money? Which Organization has the most Secrecy, Power and Money? "The Government!"Like a Soldier on post on the frontlines, every Citizen, every day, every moment - should be ever vigilant, watching our government like a Hawk - this is the mandatory duty of every citizen; this is the vital duty of every human being in every community, city, state and country.Q. If someone were to ask me, which branch, which department of the Government is the most Evil, Inhumane and infested with Crime and Corruption? Based on my first hand experience and the experience of over 20 million Americans and over 200 million all over Earth, I would say - the Family Courts and everyone connected with and working with Family Courts.Q. If someone were to ask me, which Organization is committing the most Crimes against Children? Family Courts and Child Protection Services (CPS)!And who is helping cover them up, working day and night squandering invaluable tax payers dollars? Virtually everyone in government up and down, across the board. Q. In which country, the Family Courts and CPS is the most Evil? Very disappointingly, The United States of America! (How and why, I will explain below)
There are so many crimes against children and adults. We have mere 24 hours in the day, and we have, just one life time. Each one of us must dedicate our life, at least a few hours a week, to "protect and serve", to help make our world a little better place, materially and morally - for ourselves and our children. Crimes against Children by the Government, by the Family Court and every one involved with Family Courts - is one of the biggest and most widespread; and virtually no one is daring to do anything about this. Even those working in the media, extremely few, dare to speak up. Hence to begin with, we at "ME TOO Children's Rights" Movement will be devoting our time, money and energy to this cause.
Beware, like a dangerous virus, - evil, injustice, crime and corruption does not stay within the confines of the family courts alone. The entire department of the Attorney General (AG) in all States is very actively protecting all child predators in family courts and encouraging them to continue on their crime spree. This I have seen first hand with my eyes through over 5 cases I filed in Federal Courts and reading the kind of replies (legal briefs) the AG has been writing since 2014. Crime NEVER exists in a Bubble, especially in the government. We can never ever have such a situation that one and only one department of the government is running amok with child Predators and all other departments have saints. We need simple 8th grade logic. The monumental crimes in family courts -- (a) is covered up by Judges in appeals court, state supreme court, federal district court and federal court of appeals. (b) is covered up by the chief law enforcement officer in every state - the Attorney General. (c) is covered up by the very government agencies that fight crime and corruption - Office of Judicial Ethics, Attorney Ethics, for Psychologists, Therapists, etc. i.e. any Psychologist, Therapist who is part of this Child Predator industry working with family courts, he is 100% insured, 100% protected by the government. Examples from my case are Dr. Paul Dasher, Dr. Chester Sigafoos, Therapist Kristen Luzzi-Odorisio; Lawyers Tracy Julian, Robert Kornitzer, etc. (d) the response to COVID from Dec 2019 till date is a spectacular example that crime and corruption, evil and injustice does not exist in a bubble, in isolation in family courts alone. How many of us have the time to think, the intellect to understand, and the time to move a finger on social media? In every nation, the price that "we the people", have to pay for sleeping on the post or partying on the post, is staggering and some day cause the human species to self-destruct. Why is child abuse, crimes against children, denial of children's rights, broad daylight kidnapping and psychological murder of children - the maximum in family courts in the U.S.? This is my understanding based on past 10 gut wrenching years in family courts, state appeal courts, state supreme court, federal district courts and federal court of appeals; and interacting with several victims on social media -- (without going into specific details) -- various laws under Social Security Act Title IV-D and various laws related to Child Support Enforcement incentivize the kidnapping and psychological murder of children. Because of these laws, now all actors in the "divorce corp i.e. child predator industry", have a free rein to take their criminal activity to any level they are capable of taking it to, the sky is the limit.
As per various laws under Social Security Act Title IV-D and various laws related to Child Support Enforcement, if the State Government collects $1 in child support then the federal government gives the State Government a matching bonus (may be $1.00). The child support does go to the parent who has the child (in most cases the mom), but the bonus goes into the State treasury for the State to use and benefit in ingenious ways. We can correctly call this - Child Predator Bonus or Child Predator Incentive. In financial world this would be called an evil form of money laundering, or kids for cash.
Every year typically for example the State of New Jersey collects about $10 million in Child Predator Bonus. Let us think, to earn this, how many thousands of children are tortured, traumatized, kidnapped away from one or both parents, systematically psychologically murdered, so they never return to the victim parent - they are irreparably harmed; and forever denied the pursuit of life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. Everyone in government from security guard to Governor, Senator, Congressman, Attorney General, etc., everyone knows this, and they all pretend they are deaf, dumb and blind.
We need laws, we need an environment at home and work, that brings out the best in human character, not the worst. Child Predator Bonus Laws bring out the worst in human character, in fact a healthy human being will metamorphose into a child predator in an instant.
In family courts - every one makes lot of money through kidnapping and psychological murder of children. We see an extremely dangerous and deadly combination of power, greed, secrecy and total lack of accountability. Politicians can at least be voted out of power but not Judges!
If a mom and dad walk into family court and say, "we earn the same salary and we agree to 50-50 parenting time, then (a) Child support is $0.00. (b) Lawyers, psychologists, therapists, judges, etc., make no money. (c) The State makes (launders) no money (through social security act title IV-D).
When litigants come and stand in a family court, everyone's eye is on - (a) What assets do the litigants have? (b) What do they work as, what is their earning potential, how much do they make, how much will they make over next 5 years, 10 years? And then judges, lawyers, psychologists, etc., all work as a well trained team to take charge, take control over the litigants, steer the case in such a direction that (i) Money is sucked out from the litigants pockets as if by a giant powerful vacuum cleaner, (ii) All assets are sold/dissipated and (iii) Like Slaves, the litigants work multiyear, year after year - feeding the feeding frenzy of this predatorial team of judges, psychologists, lawyers, etc.I have seen a Piranha style feeding frenzy. The Piranha at least stops when it reaches the bone, in family court they break the bones and go for the bone marrow too! Child custody, child support is the number one driver; and spousal support and equitable distribution of marital assets is the second. In about 80% of the cases, children are taken away from the father because (a) This is easy to sell - "the father is bad". (b) In every conflict between a man and woman, the sympathy and support instinctively goes to the lady, to the mommy. The poor dads are beaten dead by an incredibly evil, cruel system. Then they call them, "dead beat dads" - of course the dads are beaten dead! In 20% of the cases where mom's lose custody and have to pay child support, they too are beaten dead. But the phrase "dead beat mom", does not go well.Child Support is important. Parenting time is far more important. All over earth there are millions of single parents raising children without child support because the other parent is no longer on earth. Look at COVID, how many children have lost one or both parents. There is no child support, nor any support from government. The government does not even give the deceased parent's social security and Medicare benefits to the child. If someone asks me: What is the cost of divorce? How much will a divorce cost? I would say: Add up all your assets, add up all that you can earn over the next 5 or 10 years, may be even more, -- that will be the cost of divorce. And this is just the financial cost. The human cost, irreparable harm to parent and child is immeasurable, irreparable and will last life long.
In my case, despite being a case of marriage fraud, the litigation has been going on for over ten long years with no end in sight. I am told by many, mine is one of the worst case of marriage fraud and endless list of crimes by a mother-daughter team from Ukraine - the Ukrainian fraud wife Alina Myronova and her mother Viktoriya Myronova. If there is one case that shows clear and convincingly the limitless, bottomless extent of pure evil, injustice, crime and corruption our courts, this is it - Myronova vs Malhan! Look at my case- Immigration Fraud, Marriage Fraud, Marriage Annulment - this is costing the litigants well over TEN years and well over $6 MILLION! Which criminal case playing out in family court has ever cost so much time and money? Why should any regular divorce ever cost more than one year in time and $5,000 in cost.
The definition of kidnapping, child abuse, child predator. The definitions are very simple.(a) Kidnapping is - taking any human being away from his (her) loved one against his (her) wish.
(b) A Child Predator is anyone who preys on Children. Predators in Jungle or in the Human world always prey on those who are weak, who cannot defend themselves, who have no voice, who cannot speak for themselves. A Child Predator is anyone who exploits a child, abuses a child, inflicts emotional and/or physical pain on a child; causes directly or indirectly irreparable harm to a child. In our Family Courts, things are so bad, children are tortured and abused so much, our family courts now qualify to be called the Child Predator Industry. A Judge's chambers are torture chambers for children and innocent parents.
(c) Psychological Murder is -- kidnapping the child and then deliberately in a premeditated, well planned manner destroying the poor helpless child's love for her father and teach her to hate her father. To give an analogy - it is like, imagine the human brain is like a computer, the love the child has for her father is a software program. Psychological Murder involves destroying the program - "I Love Daddy Software" - and installing - "hate daddy software". Any adult person can be kidnapped, the level of torture can be stepped up to a level such that the person will refuse to go back to his/her family, criticize and condemn his family and everyone. In family courts, the kind of things children are forced to do is horrifying - like straight out of a science fiction movie. If the father is standing mere 2 feet right in front of the child, the child is forced -- not to call her father "daddy", not to touch her father, not to look at her father, if he speaks pretend deaf - just act as if he does not exist. All this is done by the Judges like David Katz, lawyers like Tracy Julian, psychologists like Dr. Paul Dasher, mother's like Alina Myronova, boy friends like Jeffrey M Rothstein, grand mother's like Viktoriya Myronova Hayden, Step-Grand-Fathers like Kenneth Hayden, therapists like Kristen Luzzi-Odorisio, and many more including attorney generals like Gurbir Grewal who work tirelessly to cover up all child predators. The scary part is (a) how much of a sociopath and psychopath a person has to be to do this to a helpless child. (b) there are well over One Million Child Predators in government in the U.S., alone - in one of the most civilized nation on earth in the entire history of human race.I am at a loss of words to express how sick, how evil these psychopath child predators can be!In family courts - every one makes lot of money through kidnapping and psychological murder of children. We see the deadly combination of power, greed, absolute total lack of accountability and secrecy.
Laws should bring out the best in human character, not the worst! Child Predator Law (Security Act Title IV-D and related laws incentivising collection of child support) - is one of the most evil, cruel, self-destructive piece of legislation in Human History. This will go down in human history as one of the most insanely evil law, which will make a civilization “Self Destruct”. Child Predator Law will make a Government to turn ROGUE from top to down - it already has. In fact the tsunami of greed will overflow from family courts into all other departments of the government. Just one nation or few nations, through greed, can cause and will cause, the human species to perish from the face of earth (Climate Crisis, Global Warming, etc.).
Already Judges enjoyed incredible protection and then here comes Social Security Act Title IV-D after which now every psychopath in this child predator industry enjoy absolute total protection! Under such protection everyone in the child predator industry has taken – evil, injustice, cruelty, crime and corruption to a whole new level – to a level that is as terrifying as living in North Korea or in a Nazi Germany Concentration Camp.
Two Categories of Criminals: Just as in Biology we classify all living beings. We can classify criminals into two groups – (a) Criminals who are Rich and Powerful. (b) Criminals who are Poor and Uneducated.Barring exceptions, Criminals who are Poor and Uneducated – mostly commit violent crimes, they break into your house, they steal, they mug you on the streets, sell drugs, etc.Criminals who are Rich and Powerful mostly commit nonviolent crimes. These people are in government and outside government – everyone working as a team. In fact those in government use those outside, as pawns – so as when caught, all blame is put on them and the government pretends that it did nothing wrong. Child Predator family courts and CPS – is an excellent example of the insane levels of crime and corruption by the rich and powerful – in government and outside government (and excellent collaboration between the two).The Rich and Powerful Criminals FEAR the Poor and Violent Criminals. Hence the entire focus of the Government is on catching and removing them from the streets. And amazingly in doing so again – the Rich and Powerful make money, launder money (tax we the people pay) through sophisticated schemes.A poor criminal on the street who snatches $1 from your hands – is arrested and put in prison right away. The rich and powerful criminals who kidnap children, psychologically murder children, steal hundreds of thousands of dollars from government treasury through sophisticated money laundering schemes, steal hundreds of thousands of dollars from innocent litigants, etc., --- they walk free!The Rich and Powerful Criminals can get away with monumental levels of crime for years, for decades. Just think how many Judges, Governors, Attorney Generals, Senators, Congressmen, Harvey Weinstein, Jeffrey Epstein, etc., have gone to prison? Think, what level of crime they have to do and for how many decades – in order to finally be brought to justice. Contrast this with the poor criminal on the street who snatches $1.00 from your hands and within minutes, is swiftly arrested and sent to prison for months or years.
Here is a very simple and effective measure of honesty. A honest Attorney General will be able to stand up and list - in past one year, how many in government, especially in judiciary were brought to justice for crime and corruption. There is crime and corruption everywhere, yet not a single criminal apprehended! Virtually every family court Judge violates our Constitution (First and Fourteenth Amendment), every family court Judge conducts court room proceedings in secrecy, yet not a single one is disciplined in last one year or last ten years. For crime, secrecy is mandatory! An honest Judge or official will NEVER demand secrecy! Politicians appoint Judges and then they protect each other.
Again - in crime and corruption, there are ingenious ways through which criminals help each other. Rarely there is a direct relationship. It is team based, pool based, anyone in team can help any person. There can be many levels of indirection, there are several criminal patterns.
Do we have Democracy? We have a government of the Rich and Powerful, for the Rich and Powerful and by the Rich and Powerful. Everything the “Rich and Powerful” do is to protect their clan. They fear the Poor and Violent Criminals because they know it can happen to them. They don’t fear the crimes committed by the Rich and Powerful because they think such crimes will not happen to them.
In family court there is no democracy, there are no freedoms, there is no constitution, you have no rights- you have no right to see your own children, children have no right to see their parents, you have no right to your property, you have no right to your earnings. When you enter Family Court, it is like you have entered a Black Hole. For how long can this inhumanity go on?
Money, Power, Secrecy, Lack of Accountability and then we have Social Security Act Title IV-D. In family courts - lying, cheating, stealing, manipulating, preying on children - is a daily way of life. There are so many gaping loopholes. In family court there is no Jury trial. Judge is the Law. Judge can order that the Therapist, Psychologist, Child Protective Services, etc., interview the child and parents. There is no record, there is no recording. Therapist, Psychologist, Child Protective Services can make up anything they want. They easily manipulate the child. I have myself seen this happen several times. They ask leading questions, they never take down any notes, when the child is saying something that they dont want the child to say - they will cut him off, etc. My children have told me several times (in a sad tone) "daddy, she did not let me speak, she cut me off..." In court also all discussions related to children is top secret. All reports by Therapist, Psychologist, Child Protective Services is top secret. All records are sealed. Often Judges just make it all up. In supervised visits the victim parent is not allowed to take any photo or video of his children. Victim parent is not allowed even one minute of private conversation with his children.If we file an appeal in Appeals Court, there is a one word reply - "DENIED!" The appeals court does not even bother to explain. You go to Federal Courts - Denied! You appeal to Circuit Court - Denied! You file an Ethics Complaint - Denied! You meet the legislator, senator, congressman - no action taken! Social Security Act Title IV-D has added another impregnable layer of defense.
If we have just one Slave, it will take a revolution to free her. How many of us have the time and money to fight the family court which is backed by the entire government.When a litigant arrives in court, he thinks, "finally I will get justice". Just as in any sport or military situation. It is like, imagine some one who has never played any sport, is thrown into the field to play with one of the best player. When a litigant enters the court he has zero knowledge of how deep and wide the evil, injustice, crime and corruption is. His time and money is being drained out as if from a fire hose. He is traumatized - first from divorce and then from losing his children. The trauma effects his ability to function effectively. Contrast this with the Family Court Child Predatory Industry - it is a huge team - Judges, Lawyers, Psychologists, CPS, Therapists, everyone in government up and down, etc. There is abundance of time, money, resources. Everyone has incredible experience, incredible expertise - doing this work, preying on children and parents for several years. They know all the loopholes. They have proven successful strategies and tactics in place. For the victim litigant - every day is as if struck by a lightning bolt. Within few months the victim parent is decimated, crushed, destroyed - traumatized, lost his job, bankrupt, homeless, suffering from PTSD, etc. For the rest of his life, every day he wakes up hoping and praying - "today I will get to see my children, today I will hear a knock on my door, today my phone will ring and it will be my children!" This is the dream he holds on to.MK Gandhi, Dr. Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Abraham Lincoln, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Franklin, Nelson Mandela, etc., they all said - we must disobey unjust laws, we must fight injustice.The number one threat to any child and adult is from the government, from CPS, Family Court and all involved. In U.S alone, over 20 million children - victims of family courts. Over 200 million all over the world.
A parent, bringing another human being into the world is assuming serious responsibility to love, care, protect and nurture the child.It takes a mom and dad to bring a baby into the world. Every parent sees in the child, himself and the other parent. Every child feels most happy, safe and secure when both parents love each other, are united and live under the same roof. A child enjoys a parent fully only when the other parent is also there - right there. A parent enjoys his child fully when the other parent is there. This is "normal psychology".
Think of your newborn baby, how you held your baby in your arms. Think of every day, every moment loving, caring for and nurturing your baby. For the sake of the baby, every good parent will do what ever it takes to make the marriage work. It is sad, the parent causing the marriage to fail, or filing for divorce for trivial reasons -- will inflict on the child, incredible trauma and cause wounds that will never heal fully ever. Divorce is like death in the family. It is profoundly traumatic for the children. In most cases children blame themselves for their parents divorce and never get over this guilt.After filing divorce, a parent then should bestow at least this much mercy on his (her) child, to allow the child to have a meaningful relationship with the other parent.
An child wakes up one day - struck by a lethal lightning bolt - parents taking divorce. And as if that was not enough, then the child predators in the family courts, through evil means get one parent to join their team, and then together they inflict incredibly, inhumane levels of trauma on innocent children and the other parent (victim). The victim parent, in most cases the father - loses his children for life, loses all his assets, loses his life's savings; in many cases - absolutely bankrupt, broke, homeless and shell shocked.
For the victim parent - this horrendous experience is like as if at the hands of a predator from another planet. Poor, helpless, defenseless, voiceless children are collateral damage. After unleashing a deluge of trauma on children and victim parent, - the child predators then blame it on - "Bitter custody battle! High conflict divorce, etc." Imagine what if someone says - "high conflict rape, high conflict sexual harassment, high conflict child trafficking, high conflict robbery, high conflict street fight, high conflict gang fight, etc."
Child Predators in the Family Courts - have no mercy for the children, much less for the victim parent.These crimes against children should stop. Family courts should recognize, protect and preserve a child's right to have a loving relationship with both parents.
I try to visualize, if I am a child, it would be very traumatic if my parents were to divorce; and then if I were to lose one parent, that would take my trauma to a whole new level. Those in family courts who do this to a child - are child predators and they should stop.
Think, tonight children and parents will go to bed. Tomorrow at least 500 will wake up, child losing one or both parents and parent losing his (her) child. Every day at least 500 wake up, child losing one or both parents and parent losing his (her) child.
Here are two example case studies:Case Study: Tobia IppolitoTobia is a 55-year-old father - shell shocked, traumatized, suffering from PTSD and Depression - living one day at a time; bankrupt and broke; homeless (his million dollar home and properties taken away from him). Luckily he has parents, he moved in with his elderly parents who live solely on social security. Tobia's story is an absolute horror story! Tobia worked as CPA earning well over a million dollars a year. His wife Lisa worked and earned about $100,000 a year. In 1994 after birth of a child, she quit her job and jointly managed the couples investments.In 2010, due to health reasons Tobia took early retirement. In July 2012 his wife Lisa filed for divorce. In 2016, final divorce judgement, out of 13 million dollars in assets - Lisa was given 12 million and Tobia was given only 1 million - and this too was taken away against spousal support and child support owed. His spousal support of $80,000 per month and child support of $10,000 per month is based on imputed income of 1.25 million dollars per year. Where as he is retired since 2010, he is not working since 2010, he is 100% disabled since 2012, he receives $2800 per month in SSDI benefits and of this the State of New Jersey has been garnishing/levying approximately $1800 per month. He has not seen his children since July 2012! Lisa's attorney's have made over 2 million dollars, Tobia was represented by his counsel for about two years and after spending $500,000, he has been fighting ProSe.Every human being must earn his living by the sweat of his brow. Man and Woman - both are equal. Even in the military, women have fought for equality. But in family court the first thing a woman litigant is told by everyone is - you are not equal, and since in the process the woman litigant benefits financially, hence she willingly accepts that she is "inferior". I am a male. Lets consider this scenario. I am working and earning $30,000 a year. I marry a millionaire lady - who earns $1 million every year. I quit my job, take care of the home, after 5 years I file for divorce. I deserve spousal support of max $30,000 a year and, for a duration of max 2 years or less and, I must make very sincere efforts to find a job and earn my living myself ASAP. With great religious zeal, missionary zeal everyone fights for "Child Support". And with the same religious zeal everyone fights to deny the child the victim parent's love and care. Non payment of Child Support is considered the biggest sin, biggest crime; and denying the child the love and care of the victim parent - that is okay! Clearly this does not make any human sense.
Case Study: Kirsten C Church-FauquetOn 06/12/15, DCF (CPS) took away her 5 kids and placed them in foster care. In foster care all 5 were traumatized. After that for a year or two she had visitation with her kids. During one visit she noticed one child had broken bones and burn marks. Past 3 years she has not met 2 of them and she is not told where they are.
Family court and CPS child predators inflict trauma and irreparable harm on a child through two ways: (a) take one or both parents away. (b) suck the life out of one or both parents, drag the litigation out multiyear; cause one or both parents to be bankrupt, homeless, shell shocked -- a child sees and feels all this up close. (c) Forcing the child to tell lies to the Judge, Therapists, Psychologists, Court appointed parenting supervisors, etc. (d) Forcing the child to be abusive to the father in ways that are unheard of in human history such as - when the dad is standing mere 2 feet from the child, force the child, to ignore the presence of the dad one hundred percent. What is the Solution? In every civilized society we pass laws to uphold what is ethical, moral, just and fair; and if we correctly interpret and apply the law then at the end of the day we will succeed in upholding what is ethical, moral, just and fair. We need clear headed thinking. We need clarity of thought and action.The best Law is only as good as the person interpreting and enforcing it.No matter what law we pass or create, the criminals will find a loophole. Virtually every law impacting business revenues - upfront itself has loopholes inserted by powerful lobbying groups.No matter what we do, what laws we pass, how many laws we pass, -- there always will be crimes just as in every other sector.We need to understand the cause and effect, actions and response relationship between events.
Some laws are brilliantly sugar coated - such as those related to collecting child support (Social Security Act Title IV-D, etc.) Politicians proudly boasted - that this was "dead beat dad's" law, to help children get the financial support they need. Lies like these will go down in human history as some of the biggest and most shameless lies a government told its free people. The same politicians, judges and everyone never spoke a word about the child needing her father. Add to this - the real intent, the hidden intent of "dead beat dads" law, from the very beginning, was to beat the dads dead, make them work like slaves, so the law firms, psychologists, judges and the State can make money. The biggest challenge in solving any problem - when framing new laws is - how to counter the above two scenarios. There are lot of things to consider when framing new laws for combating crime. I have discussed this in my lectures and essays way back in 1980's - one was on, - The Science of Making Laws, The How and Why of Laws.
A very good example is -- family laws in Australia mandate 50-50, and lawyers, psychologists, Judges, etc., there have incorporated this into their business model to maximize revenues. So, no matter what laws are there, child predators know how to change their game, they fully validate Charles Darwin's theory of evolution - they adapt very rapidly to any changes in laws.
Every case is different. Every situation is different. There are no universal laws. Every law has an exception. There is an exception to every law. That is where a human steps in to correctly interpret the intent of the law and apply it correctly. At the end of the day, protecting a child would involve keep the child away from the mom or dad or both - depends on who is abusive, on who has committed a crime against the child and whether the crime merits such action which in some cases can be a "punishment to the child" as well.
Lets not drag in here and discuss - criminal situations. However false criminal allegations is the biggest loophole in family courts and those raising any false allegations - should be dealt with criminal charges - rogue parent, lawyers, therapists, psychologists and Judges. Every Judge knows when this is happening - when false allegations are being raised. The Judge encourages it whole heartedly, the judge infact mandates this and everyone up till the AG and Governor protects such Judges.
Do we need laws for - Right to breathe! Right to eat food! Right to shelter! Right to have children! Right to be a parent! Right of a child to have a Parent!
When identifying solutions we can follow the wisdom gained from leadership and management. The 80-20 rule in management says - 80% of the results are produced by focussing on 20% of the factors.
I need time to think and come up with suggestions, but here are some suggestions based on 80-20 rule:-
(1) ZERO SECRECY, Zero Gag Orders: There should be nothing secret in family courts. Every aspect of family court including children - should be open to public, one hundred percent. Judges say we need secrecy else children will be bullied in school.
Judges, CPS and all in government often say that it is not in the "Best Interests" of children if the father goes on social media and posts, "my dear baby girl, daddy loves you!" Where as children watch on live TV, their father or another child's father die from choke hold, knee to the neck, beaten to death or shot down, - right in front of their eyes.
Our constitution already grantees this, but in family courts - our constitution is flushed down the toilet.
This is incredibly important, the number one most important thing, not just for family courts but for all nations, for all civilized values:There should be nothing secret in family courts or anywhere. Every aspect of family court including children - should be open to public one hundred percent. Therapists, Psychologists, Parenting Supervisors, etc., everyone should audio record their sessions -- same as in court, same as the police body cams.In supervised visits, the parent should be allowed to take photo-video in a manner same as every other parent does.
Show me one Judge who says secrecy is in the "Best Interests" of the child and our investigation will show beyond a reasonable doubt, that this Judge is a Child Predator.Understand cause and effect. If a judge says - a parent writing on social media that he loves his children is not in the best interests of the children, then why take the children away. Let the parent see his children and then he will not post on social media.
(2) All laws, all policies, programs incentivising collection of child support should be scrapped right away. It makes no sense. There is no incentive to catch rapists and murderers but there is incredible incentive to "beat dads dead!"There are millions of children who have lost one or both parents to COVID, in military service, in natural disasters, etc. There are millions of children living below poverty line and not having even one meal a day. The government offers zero help!Not all single parents (who get 100% custody) are financially challenged. Any single parent earning over $40,000 can support herself and her kids. Every single parent of family court, can talk to the other loving parent and say "you have kids kids 50% of the time." (Please note, here we are discussing only financial matters - child support - which is the root cause of "greed" and almost all trauma in family courts)
The budget for child predator incentive, i.e. to collect child support is a billion dollars or more. In less than half that budget, not just family court, but all financially challenged children can be supported. Why cant our government do such a humane act!
(3) Spousal Support and Equitable Distribution of Marital Assets: The laws are there! And they need to be enforced from the very first day! Not 10 years later!
Let us understand the law. Two human beings Joe and Mary get together and start a software business - Abc Corp. When starting the business Joe puts in (invests) $1000, Mary puts in $2000. In the business for simplicity, lets say, Joe works as accountant and Mary works as software developer and both work 40 hours a week.
Q. What salary should Joe and Mary be paid? Assuming that business is making money, a fair way to decide how much Joe and Mary should be paid is - how much would they be paid if there were doing the same job in another company?
Q. Now lets assume, after 5 years, Joe and Mary decide to split, or for simplicity, lets say, they sell the business and each goes their own way. Assume the business is sold for $100,000. So do you think Joe and Mary should each get $50,000. How much each gets depends on (a) how much initial investment each one made. (b) what they worked as, how much value they added? (c) how many hours each worked.
If Joe and Mary were to get married and they separate after 5 years. How much spousal support and how much each gets from marital assets. Here again the law is exactly the same. That is why the law says "Equitable distribution". The law NEVER says, "Equal distribution". The words "Equitable" and "Equal" do not mean the same.
Beginning on day one, Lawyers and Judges begin extracting money out from man and giving it to the lady (assuming that the lady has less money) - this is done so that - (a) litigation gets stirred up, lawyers put in more hours and hence earn more. (b) Ability to pay. The lady now has money and can pay her lawyers.
In many cases virtually all of the money collected as child support, spousal support and from marital assets - goes into paying legal fees. For example in my case of marriage fraud, despite serious crimes, in past ten years Alina has been awarded and she collected over $600,000 in child support and spousal support, and over $600,000 from marital assets (despite she has negative equity in marital assets). Her legal bills till date have been more than $3 million. By the time the trial is over (hopefully by end of this year) the Judge may order I sell my retirement investment properties and pay her legal bills. Then after trial, if at all there is any honesty, the court will order that Alina repay me back over $4 million. The Judges, lawyers of Alina, Psychologists, Therapists, The State, etc., every one has pocketed the $4 million or more extracted from my pocket in past 10 years and now for rest of my life, I need to go to a different court, file another civil suit, to get Alina to pay the $4 million that the family court ordered. On the streets, a poor man will show a knife or gun and steal $10 from you. In Court, the Judge uses his cloak and gavel, passes illegal orders and easily steals millions of dollars from both litigants. If any business did the same as the government did in family courts, they would be sent to prison for fraudulent business practices.
(Back to the issue of child support) If father does not work, he is forced to work else put in jail. But no judge does this, -- to give the kids to the dad, force the mom to work and pay child support. The only reason this is not done, because this does not look good in news media. It is not easy to sell, "dead beat mom". Why in last 100 years we have not heard one case where a judge has said - You both are good parents, the children will have both parents 50-50, you both are working and earning nearly the same, hence both child support and spousal support is $0.00. The fact that in 100 years in over 200 million divorces this has never happened shows clear and convincingly that decisions are driven by "greed".
If a Judge rules 50-50 parenting and $0.00 support, then (a) Lawyers will be very displeased (b) all other judges and the judiciary itself will have that Judge removed. I have seen Judge Vito Sciancalepore moved from Family Court to Civil Court since in the false stalking and harassment case filed by Ukrainian Fraud Alina against me, Jude Vito ruled that Alina was a fraud and an incredible liar who told zero truth!
Millions of women have worked very-very hard, to get their rightful place as equal member in society.In my early 20's (in 1980's) one of my essay/lecture topic was "Female of the Species Homo Sapiens". Without going into much details, let us look at the female athletes in any sport including martial arts, and then lets count - how many males can outperform these female athletes?
In a typical activity at home or work, we dont want the same level as for the Olympic team. i.e. a lady can and should be able to do what ever a man can do.
When a lady enters family court, she is often told (in over 80% cases) that she is good for nothing, - the only skills she has, the only thing she can do is - take care of babies.
On the first day when a couple comes in family court, the Judge passes temporary orders (called pendente-lite)
They call it Child Support, spousal support. In reality the mom and dad are supporting an army of Judges, Lawyers, their staff, psychologists, therapists, etc.They call it equitable distribution of marital assets. In the team of Judges, Lawyers, psychologists, therapists, etc. are looking at the litigants assets and earnings, drooling, salivating, - how to extract and distribute that amongst themselves.
Child Support, spousal support, distribution of marital assets - all this stirs up litigation, increases litigation cost and time. All this causes incredible trauma to the parents and hence to the child. Child Support causes a child to lose a parent.
Who can join this group:-Any human being who is honest and humane qualifies to join. Anyone who can stand up and say: "Children should not be exploited, manipulated or abused in any way, shape or form, by anyone" -- will be a proud member of this movement.Take any movement, India's Freedom Struggle, Civil Rights Movement, ... Several Millions enlisted and participated. Each one was important.
About Myself:-I was born and raised in India. I lived in India for 34 years. I have been living in the U.S., since March 1995. My dad was a naval officer (in India). I grew up on a naval base. I graduated from the National Defence Academy (Top Military Academy). I did my Masters in Computer Science from IIT (Indian Institute of Technology, Powai. Top University). I served in the Indian Army for 11 years, left as a Captain on medical grounds. In March 1995 I came to U.S. on H1B Visa. For three years, I worked as a software engineer / architect in Bankers Trust, JPM Chase and Merrill Lynch. Along side my full time job in May 1996 I started SpaceAge a software services firm. I have been working 80 plus hours a week.At SpaceAge I combine social work with business - I train individuals who are unable to find work. I train them painstakingly for 12 or more months and then we provide software development services to clients such as Goldman Sachs, UBS, BOA, Credit Suisse, Merrill Lynch, etc. I have trained hundreds of software engineers, many having PhDs. I have also trained few professors as well.At SpaceAge as a Chief Software Architect and Chief Technology Officer, my work involves heavy weight logical thinking and teaching software engineers analytical, lateral thinking and problem solving skills.Along side my military career, beginning when I was 17 years old, I began devoting all my leisure time to social work / community welfare work -- studying and guiding the Mental, Moral, Psychological and Intellectual development of children and adults. This work involved developing human potential, creating an awareness and concern for key challenges facing the human species - degradation of the human mind (moral values) and degradation of the environment (climate change, pollution, population, etc.). This self undertaken work is very challenging intellectually. Typically, a Psychologist will do such work after their Ph.D. and how many would want to do such work and go on to do such work. LINKS -- Download My Book: Wisdom of The Ages. Published - July 2022. Protecting Children, Moms and Dads -- Download My Federal Complaint Filed in October 2022 - Stunning, Shocking, Chilling, must read for every human being. This Complaint has such facts that we dont need any further evidence, we dont need a trial, all we need is integrity and a teenager's intellect. Watch Live -- Bank Robbery - Bank of Malhan! www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/self-education-capt-surender-malhan Letter to President Joe Biden, Vice President Kamala Harris, Attorney General Merrick Garlandhttp://www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/letter-to-president-joe-biden The Greatest Intellectual and Moral Challenge: www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/greatest-intellectual-and-moral-challenge Zoom Meeting Invitation to President Joe Biden. www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/invitation-to-president-joe-biden Time Management. Communication Skills. Effective Communication. A 90+, Retired Naval Officer, COVID Positive Grand Father's Appeal to President Joe Biden Even in India's COVID Tragedy U.S. Judges and Attorneys find ways to make "MONEY"!www.facebook.com/surender.malhan.33www.LinkedIn.com/in/Capt-Surender-Malhan www.facebook.com/SpaceAge1www.facebook.com/CaptSurenderMalhan.ReadingForSelfDevelopmentwww.facebook.com/CaptSurenderMalhanSocialResponsibilitiesHumanBeing www.SpaceAgeGroup.com -- follow the link on left to Life On Earth.
Study the freedom movement in India led by MK Gandhi. Study the Civil Rights movement led by Dr. Martin Luther King. The human cost that comes from retaliation by forces of Evil will always be there, but it will be much less, when millions of people come together peacefully and peacefully fight Evil, Injustice, Crime and Corruption.
We need to Hate the Sin, NOT the Sinner. At all times, bear no malice. Don't let negative feelings of anger, hatred, jealousy, resentment, retaliation,.., enter our heart. Do not enter a room thinking of and looking at the other person as an adversary. At all times bring Positive energy into the room. In our heart, mind and soul always have Positive energy. M.K. Gandhi said - "Instead of complaining about the darkness light a candle." Life is Unfair, accept it! Accept that human beings can be inhuman and evil. At times we may have to accept this as calmly as the millions who calmly waited in line for their turn to enter the Gas Chambers in Nazi Concentration Camps. MK Gandhi said, "for a just cause, we should be prepared to die!" Sometimes the Evil and Injustice perpetrated by Evil Individuals, Gangs and Evil Governments can be such that peaceful protestors have to be prepared to die. And always, there is strength and safety in numbers. Be eager to listen and learn. Listen with empathy. Be honest. Be sincere. Humility is very important. What I admire most about men and women like MK Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Dr. Martin Luther King, George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, etc., is their Humility. Their entire focus was on "Service", how to serve, how to contribute!
Every day we must count our blessing. Think! Let us merely visualize just one minute in the life of a Soldier on the battle field - The Revolution, Gettysburg, Civil War, WW-I, WW-II, Vietnam, Korea, Iraq, Afghanistan, and many-many more. How many or us would want to be there on that battle field for mere one minute? We have got our "Freedom" for free! Think how easy it is to protect and preserve our freedom, as compared to the incredible cost of getting it back, if we were to lose it. Think of the millions of soldiers on the battlefield who gave it their all, what if they could see, that we cannot take out even 30 minutes, from the comfort of our home, to reach such write-ups, we cannot speak up, we cannot write an email or a letter to our elected representatives.
ME TOO Children's Rights -- (In my write up below when I write -- he, him, himself, etc., depending on context, I am referring to all genders, not just a male child.)Once upon a time, every adult was a child. We all enter this world as a baby. As an adult, we should never forget, what we expected from parents and adults, when we were a child. As a child, from every adult we expected Love and Trust - that we could trust them, that we are safe with them. What is worse sin than rape? Betrayal of Trust! People who lie, cheat, steal may still qualify to be called human beings. But people who betray another's human being's trust, do not qualify to be called human beings. And a human being who betrays a child's trust is even more lower. What kind of character, what kind of moral fiber does a person have to have - to betray a child's trust; and to bully, exploit, abuse and torture a child.We are all a product of our environment. Behind every predator stands a parent who has failed to give upbringing to the predator when he himself was a child. Behind every predator stands a team of teachers, education system and community - which has failed. Parenting: Children come through us (parents), but they don't belong to us. As parents we are here to love them, nurture them; to guarantee them their inalienable rights - to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness.A child cannot speak up for himself. A child cannot fight for his rights. Children are easy targets for Vultures and Predators.Predators, like Vultures, are always looking for the sick, the young and the dying.Some children are abused and exploited by their parents.
The child is protected best from external predators when both parents are united and committed to loving and protecting their child. Children who have lost one or both parents are very easy targets for predators. When Predators see a parent unable to protect their child, then Predators take their evil acts to a whole new level. It gives them a free rein to do anything they want to the child.
Childhood is the most important phase in a human beings life. Childhood experiences have very far reaching impact. Childhood trauma can often change the entire trajectory of a child's life - as a child and as an adult.Protecting children from any form of abuse is the responsibility of every adult in the society. If we see something, we must dare to say something.It is sad, since the first human being set foot on earth, children have been taken advantage of; they have been exploited, abused, molested, tortured and have been victims of all kinds of crimes.There are so many different categories of crimes against children - these crimes are well known, well documented and studied, and there are laws to help bring the criminals to justice.But there are certain crimes against children, that the vast majority of us do not know about. The world at large, is totally unaware of these. These are crimes against children in Family Courts all over the world. At any given time, there are at least over 20 million victims in the U.S., alone, and well over 200 million all over the World. Even if the statistics says "one", -- why should that be allowed to happen. Would you like to be that one? Would you ever wish that your child, or you as a child should be a victim of crime?
Let us analyze, what is the most powerful recipe for turning a Human Being into a Predator? "Power, Secrecy and Money!"In fact "Secrecy" alone has the most powerful effect in destroying the human soul, in flushing out from a person's heart all human values completely. Tell a person that, "what ever you do will be 100% secret for the rest of your life on Earth", after that, the chances, that the person will very soon metamorphose into a Predator is virtually 100%. With Secrecy the transformation of human soul into a Predator happens extremely rapidly.
Let us dare to ask this question - which Organization can most easily get transformed into a Predatorial Organization? In which Organization are we most likely to find Predators?The brilliant Nobel Prize winning Physicist Paul Dirac said, "Ask the right questions and we will get the right answer."Let us ask the right questions. Which Organization has the most Secrecy? Which Organization has the most Power? Which Organization has the most Money? Which Organization has the most Secrecy, Power and Money? "The Government!"Like a Soldier on post on the frontlines, every Citizen, every day, every moment - should be ever vigilant, watching our government like a Hawk - this is the mandatory duty of every citizen; this is the vital duty of every human being in every community, city, state and country.Q. If someone were to ask me, which branch, which department of the Government is the most Evil, Inhumane and infested with Crime and Corruption? Based on my first hand experience and the experience of over 20 million Americans and over 200 million all over Earth, I would say - the Family Courts and everyone connected with and working with Family Courts.Q. If someone were to ask me, which Organization is committing the most Crimes against Children? Family Courts and Child Protection Services (CPS)!And who is helping cover them up, working day and night squandering invaluable tax payers dollars? Virtually everyone in government up and down, across the board. Q. In which country, the Family Courts and CPS is the most Evil? Very disappointingly, The United States of America! (How and why, I will explain below)
There are so many crimes against children and adults. We have mere 24 hours in the day, and we have, just one life time. Each one of us must dedicate our life, at least a few hours a week, to "protect and serve", to help make our world a little better place, materially and morally - for ourselves and our children. Crimes against Children by the Government, by the Family Court and every one involved with Family Courts - is one of the biggest and most widespread; and virtually no one is daring to do anything about this. Even those working in the media, extremely few, dare to speak up. Hence to begin with, we at "ME TOO Children's Rights" Movement will be devoting our time, money and energy to this cause.
Beware, like a dangerous virus, - evil, injustice, crime and corruption does not stay within the confines of the family courts alone. The entire department of the Attorney General (AG) in all States is very actively protecting all child predators in family courts and encouraging them to continue on their crime spree. This I have seen first hand with my eyes through over 5 cases I filed in Federal Courts and reading the kind of replies (legal briefs) the AG has been writing since 2014. Crime NEVER exists in a Bubble, especially in the government. We can never ever have such a situation that one and only one department of the government is running amok with child Predators and all other departments have saints. We need simple 8th grade logic. The monumental crimes in family courts -- (a) is covered up by Judges in appeals court, state supreme court, federal district court and federal court of appeals. (b) is covered up by the chief law enforcement officer in every state - the Attorney General. (c) is covered up by the very government agencies that fight crime and corruption - Office of Judicial Ethics, Attorney Ethics, for Psychologists, Therapists, etc. i.e. any Psychologist, Therapist who is part of this Child Predator industry working with family courts, he is 100% insured, 100% protected by the government. Examples from my case are Dr. Paul Dasher, Dr. Chester Sigafoos, Therapist Kristen Luzzi-Odorisio; Lawyers Tracy Julian, Robert Kornitzer, etc. (d) the response to COVID from Dec 2019 till date is a spectacular example that crime and corruption, evil and injustice does not exist in a bubble, in isolation in family courts alone. How many of us have the time to think, the intellect to understand, and the time to move a finger on social media? In every nation, the price that "we the people", have to pay for sleeping on the post or partying on the post, is staggering and some day cause the human species to self-destruct. Why is child abuse, crimes against children, denial of children's rights, broad daylight kidnapping and psychological murder of children - the maximum in family courts in the U.S.? This is my understanding based on past 10 gut wrenching years in family courts, state appeal courts, state supreme court, federal district courts and federal court of appeals; and interacting with several victims on social media -- (without going into specific details) -- various laws under Social Security Act Title IV-D and various laws related to Child Support Enforcement incentivize the kidnapping and psychological murder of children. Because of these laws, now all actors in the "divorce corp i.e. child predator industry", have a free rein to take their criminal activity to any level they are capable of taking it to, the sky is the limit.
As per various laws under Social Security Act Title IV-D and various laws related to Child Support Enforcement, if the State Government collects $1 in child support then the federal government gives the State Government a matching bonus (may be $1.00). The child support does go to the parent who has the child (in most cases the mom), but the bonus goes into the State treasury for the State to use and benefit in ingenious ways. We can correctly call this - Child Predator Bonus or Child Predator Incentive. In financial world this would be called an evil form of money laundering, or kids for cash.
Every year typically for example the State of New Jersey collects about $10 million in Child Predator Bonus. Let us think, to earn this, how many thousands of children are tortured, traumatized, kidnapped away from one or both parents, systematically psychologically murdered, so they never return to the victim parent - they are irreparably harmed; and forever denied the pursuit of life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. Everyone in government from security guard to Governor, Senator, Congressman, Attorney General, etc., everyone knows this, and they all pretend they are deaf, dumb and blind.
We need laws, we need an environment at home and work, that brings out the best in human character, not the worst. Child Predator Bonus Laws bring out the worst in human character, in fact a healthy human being will metamorphose into a child predator in an instant.
In family courts - every one makes lot of money through kidnapping and psychological murder of children. We see an extremely dangerous and deadly combination of power, greed, secrecy and total lack of accountability. Politicians can at least be voted out of power but not Judges!
If a mom and dad walk into family court and say, "we earn the same salary and we agree to 50-50 parenting time, then (a) Child support is $0.00. (b) Lawyers, psychologists, therapists, judges, etc., make no money. (c) The State makes (launders) no money (through social security act title IV-D).
When litigants come and stand in a family court, everyone's eye is on - (a) What assets do the litigants have? (b) What do they work as, what is their earning potential, how much do they make, how much will they make over next 5 years, 10 years? And then judges, lawyers, psychologists, etc., all work as a well trained team to take charge, take control over the litigants, steer the case in such a direction that (i) Money is sucked out from the litigants pockets as if by a giant powerful vacuum cleaner, (ii) All assets are sold/dissipated and (iii) Like Slaves, the litigants work multiyear, year after year - feeding the feeding frenzy of this predatorial team of judges, psychologists, lawyers, etc.I have seen a Piranha style feeding frenzy. The Piranha at least stops when it reaches the bone, in family court they break the bones and go for the bone marrow too! Child custody, child support is the number one driver; and spousal support and equitable distribution of marital assets is the second. In about 80% of the cases, children are taken away from the father because (a) This is easy to sell - "the father is bad". (b) In every conflict between a man and woman, the sympathy and support instinctively goes to the lady, to the mommy. The poor dads are beaten dead by an incredibly evil, cruel system. Then they call them, "dead beat dads" - of course the dads are beaten dead! In 20% of the cases where mom's lose custody and have to pay child support, they too are beaten dead. But the phrase "dead beat mom", does not go well.Child Support is important. Parenting time is far more important. All over earth there are millions of single parents raising children without child support because the other parent is no longer on earth. Look at COVID, how many children have lost one or both parents. There is no child support, nor any support from government. The government does not even give the deceased parent's social security and Medicare benefits to the child. If someone asks me: What is the cost of divorce? How much will a divorce cost? I would say: Add up all your assets, add up all that you can earn over the next 5 or 10 years, may be even more, -- that will be the cost of divorce. And this is just the financial cost. The human cost, irreparable harm to parent and child is immeasurable, irreparable and will last life long.
In my case, despite being a case of marriage fraud, the litigation has been going on for over ten long years with no end in sight. I am told by many, mine is one of the worst case of marriage fraud and endless list of crimes by a mother-daughter team from Ukraine - the Ukrainian fraud wife Alina Myronova and her mother Viktoriya Myronova. If there is one case that shows clear and convincingly the limitless, bottomless extent of pure evil, injustice, crime and corruption our courts, this is it - Myronova vs Malhan! Look at my case- Immigration Fraud, Marriage Fraud, Marriage Annulment - this is costing the litigants well over TEN years and well over $6 MILLION! Which criminal case playing out in family court has ever cost so much time and money? Why should any regular divorce ever cost more than one year in time and $5,000 in cost.
The definition of kidnapping, child abuse, child predator. The definitions are very simple.(a) Kidnapping is - taking any human being away from his (her) loved one against his (her) wish.
(b) A Child Predator is anyone who preys on Children. Predators in Jungle or in the Human world always prey on those who are weak, who cannot defend themselves, who have no voice, who cannot speak for themselves. A Child Predator is anyone who exploits a child, abuses a child, inflicts emotional and/or physical pain on a child; causes directly or indirectly irreparable harm to a child. In our Family Courts, things are so bad, children are tortured and abused so much, our family courts now qualify to be called the Child Predator Industry. A Judge's chambers are torture chambers for children and innocent parents.
(c) Psychological Murder is -- kidnapping the child and then deliberately in a premeditated, well planned manner destroying the poor helpless child's love for her father and teach her to hate her father. To give an analogy - it is like, imagine the human brain is like a computer, the love the child has for her father is a software program. Psychological Murder involves destroying the program - "I Love Daddy Software" - and installing - "hate daddy software". Any adult person can be kidnapped, the level of torture can be stepped up to a level such that the person will refuse to go back to his/her family, criticize and condemn his family and everyone. In family courts, the kind of things children are forced to do is horrifying - like straight out of a science fiction movie. If the father is standing mere 2 feet right in front of the child, the child is forced -- not to call her father "daddy", not to touch her father, not to look at her father, if he speaks pretend deaf - just act as if he does not exist. All this is done by the Judges like David Katz, lawyers like Tracy Julian, psychologists like Dr. Paul Dasher, mother's like Alina Myronova, boy friends like Jeffrey M Rothstein, grand mother's like Viktoriya Myronova Hayden, Step-Grand-Fathers like Kenneth Hayden, therapists like Kristen Luzzi-Odorisio, and many more including attorney generals like Gurbir Grewal who work tirelessly to cover up all child predators. The scary part is (a) how much of a sociopath and psychopath a person has to be to do this to a helpless child. (b) there are well over One Million Child Predators in government in the U.S., alone - in one of the most civilized nation on earth in the entire history of human race.I am at a loss of words to express how sick, how evil these psychopath child predators can be!In family courts - every one makes lot of money through kidnapping and psychological murder of children. We see the deadly combination of power, greed, absolute total lack of accountability and secrecy.
Laws should bring out the best in human character, not the worst! Child Predator Law (Security Act Title IV-D and related laws incentivising collection of child support) - is one of the most evil, cruel, self-destructive piece of legislation in Human History. This will go down in human history as one of the most insanely evil law, which will make a civilization “Self Destruct”. Child Predator Law will make a Government to turn ROGUE from top to down - it already has. In fact the tsunami of greed will overflow from family courts into all other departments of the government. Just one nation or few nations, through greed, can cause and will cause, the human species to perish from the face of earth (Climate Crisis, Global Warming, etc.).
Already Judges enjoyed incredible protection and then here comes Social Security Act Title IV-D after which now every psychopath in this child predator industry enjoy absolute total protection! Under such protection everyone in the child predator industry has taken – evil, injustice, cruelty, crime and corruption to a whole new level – to a level that is as terrifying as living in North Korea or in a Nazi Germany Concentration Camp.
Two Categories of Criminals: Just as in Biology we classify all living beings. We can classify criminals into two groups – (a) Criminals who are Rich and Powerful. (b) Criminals who are Poor and Uneducated.Barring exceptions, Criminals who are Poor and Uneducated – mostly commit violent crimes, they break into your house, they steal, they mug you on the streets, sell drugs, etc.Criminals who are Rich and Powerful mostly commit nonviolent crimes. These people are in government and outside government – everyone working as a team. In fact those in government use those outside, as pawns – so as when caught, all blame is put on them and the government pretends that it did nothing wrong. Child Predator family courts and CPS – is an excellent example of the insane levels of crime and corruption by the rich and powerful – in government and outside government (and excellent collaboration between the two).The Rich and Powerful Criminals FEAR the Poor and Violent Criminals. Hence the entire focus of the Government is on catching and removing them from the streets. And amazingly in doing so again – the Rich and Powerful make money, launder money (tax we the people pay) through sophisticated schemes.A poor criminal on the street who snatches $1 from your hands – is arrested and put in prison right away. The rich and powerful criminals who kidnap children, psychologically murder children, steal hundreds of thousands of dollars from government treasury through sophisticated money laundering schemes, steal hundreds of thousands of dollars from innocent litigants, etc., --- they walk free!The Rich and Powerful Criminals can get away with monumental levels of crime for years, for decades. Just think how many Judges, Governors, Attorney Generals, Senators, Congressmen, Harvey Weinstein, Jeffrey Epstein, etc., have gone to prison? Think, what level of crime they have to do and for how many decades – in order to finally be brought to justice. Contrast this with the poor criminal on the street who snatches $1.00 from your hands and within minutes, is swiftly arrested and sent to prison for months or years.
Here is a very simple and effective measure of honesty. A honest Attorney General will be able to stand up and list - in past one year, how many in government, especially in judiciary were brought to justice for crime and corruption. There is crime and corruption everywhere, yet not a single criminal apprehended! Virtually every family court Judge violates our Constitution (First and Fourteenth Amendment), every family court Judge conducts court room proceedings in secrecy, yet not a single one is disciplined in last one year or last ten years. For crime, secrecy is mandatory! An honest Judge or official will NEVER demand secrecy! Politicians appoint Judges and then they protect each other.
Again - in crime and corruption, there are ingenious ways through which criminals help each other. Rarely there is a direct relationship. It is team based, pool based, anyone in team can help any person. There can be many levels of indirection, there are several criminal patterns.
Do we have Democracy? We have a government of the Rich and Powerful, for the Rich and Powerful and by the Rich and Powerful. Everything the “Rich and Powerful” do is to protect their clan. They fear the Poor and Violent Criminals because they know it can happen to them. They don’t fear the crimes committed by the Rich and Powerful because they think such crimes will not happen to them.
In family court there is no democracy, there are no freedoms, there is no constitution, you have no rights- you have no right to see your own children, children have no right to see their parents, you have no right to your property, you have no right to your earnings. When you enter Family Court, it is like you have entered a Black Hole. For how long can this inhumanity go on?
Money, Power, Secrecy, Lack of Accountability and then we have Social Security Act Title IV-D. In family courts - lying, cheating, stealing, manipulating, preying on children - is a daily way of life. There are so many gaping loopholes. In family court there is no Jury trial. Judge is the Law. Judge can order that the Therapist, Psychologist, Child Protective Services, etc., interview the child and parents. There is no record, there is no recording. Therapist, Psychologist, Child Protective Services can make up anything they want. They easily manipulate the child. I have myself seen this happen several times. They ask leading questions, they never take down any notes, when the child is saying something that they dont want the child to say - they will cut him off, etc. My children have told me several times (in a sad tone) "daddy, she did not let me speak, she cut me off..." In court also all discussions related to children is top secret. All reports by Therapist, Psychologist, Child Protective Services is top secret. All records are sealed. Often Judges just make it all up. In supervised visits the victim parent is not allowed to take any photo or video of his children. Victim parent is not allowed even one minute of private conversation with his children.If we file an appeal in Appeals Court, there is a one word reply - "DENIED!" The appeals court does not even bother to explain. You go to Federal Courts - Denied! You appeal to Circuit Court - Denied! You file an Ethics Complaint - Denied! You meet the legislator, senator, congressman - no action taken! Social Security Act Title IV-D has added another impregnable layer of defense.
If we have just one Slave, it will take a revolution to free her. How many of us have the time and money to fight the family court which is backed by the entire government.When a litigant arrives in court, he thinks, "finally I will get justice". Just as in any sport or military situation. It is like, imagine some one who has never played any sport, is thrown into the field to play with one of the best player. When a litigant enters the court he has zero knowledge of how deep and wide the evil, injustice, crime and corruption is. His time and money is being drained out as if from a fire hose. He is traumatized - first from divorce and then from losing his children. The trauma effects his ability to function effectively. Contrast this with the Family Court Child Predatory Industry - it is a huge team - Judges, Lawyers, Psychologists, CPS, Therapists, everyone in government up and down, etc. There is abundance of time, money, resources. Everyone has incredible experience, incredible expertise - doing this work, preying on children and parents for several years. They know all the loopholes. They have proven successful strategies and tactics in place. For the victim litigant - every day is as if struck by a lightning bolt. Within few months the victim parent is decimated, crushed, destroyed - traumatized, lost his job, bankrupt, homeless, suffering from PTSD, etc. For the rest of his life, every day he wakes up hoping and praying - "today I will get to see my children, today I will hear a knock on my door, today my phone will ring and it will be my children!" This is the dream he holds on to.MK Gandhi, Dr. Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Abraham Lincoln, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Franklin, Nelson Mandela, etc., they all said - we must disobey unjust laws, we must fight injustice.The number one threat to any child and adult is from the government, from CPS, Family Court and all involved. In U.S alone, over 20 million children - victims of family courts. Over 200 million all over the world.
A parent, bringing another human being into the world is assuming serious responsibility to love, care, protect and nurture the child.It takes a mom and dad to bring a baby into the world. Every parent sees in the child, himself and the other parent. Every child feels most happy, safe and secure when both parents love each other, are united and live under the same roof. A child enjoys a parent fully only when the other parent is also there - right there. A parent enjoys his child fully when the other parent is there. This is "normal psychology".
Think of your newborn baby, how you held your baby in your arms. Think of every day, every moment loving, caring for and nurturing your baby. For the sake of the baby, every good parent will do what ever it takes to make the marriage work. It is sad, the parent causing the marriage to fail, or filing for divorce for trivial reasons -- will inflict on the child, incredible trauma and cause wounds that will never heal fully ever. Divorce is like death in the family. It is profoundly traumatic for the children. In most cases children blame themselves for their parents divorce and never get over this guilt.After filing divorce, a parent then should bestow at least this much mercy on his (her) child, to allow the child to have a meaningful relationship with the other parent.
An child wakes up one day - struck by a lethal lightning bolt - parents taking divorce. And as if that was not enough, then the child predators in the family courts, through evil means get one parent to join their team, and then together they inflict incredibly, inhumane levels of trauma on innocent children and the other parent (victim). The victim parent, in most cases the father - loses his children for life, loses all his assets, loses his life's savings; in many cases - absolutely bankrupt, broke, homeless and shell shocked.
For the victim parent - this horrendous experience is like as if at the hands of a predator from another planet. Poor, helpless, defenseless, voiceless children are collateral damage. After unleashing a deluge of trauma on children and victim parent, - the child predators then blame it on - "Bitter custody battle! High conflict divorce, etc." Imagine what if someone says - "high conflict rape, high conflict sexual harassment, high conflict child trafficking, high conflict robbery, high conflict street fight, high conflict gang fight, etc."
Child Predators in the Family Courts - have no mercy for the children, much less for the victim parent.These crimes against children should stop. Family courts should recognize, protect and preserve a child's right to have a loving relationship with both parents.
I try to visualize, if I am a child, it would be very traumatic if my parents were to divorce; and then if I were to lose one parent, that would take my trauma to a whole new level. Those in family courts who do this to a child - are child predators and they should stop.
Think, tonight children and parents will go to bed. Tomorrow at least 500 will wake up, child losing one or both parents and parent losing his (her) child. Every day at least 500 wake up, child losing one or both parents and parent losing his (her) child.
Here are two example case studies:Case Study: Tobia IppolitoTobia is a 55-year-old father - shell shocked, traumatized, suffering from PTSD and Depression - living one day at a time; bankrupt and broke; homeless (his million dollar home and properties taken away from him). Luckily he has parents, he moved in with his elderly parents who live solely on social security. Tobia's story is an absolute horror story! Tobia worked as CPA earning well over a million dollars a year. His wife Lisa worked and earned about $100,000 a year. In 1994 after birth of a child, she quit her job and jointly managed the couples investments.In 2010, due to health reasons Tobia took early retirement. In July 2012 his wife Lisa filed for divorce. In 2016, final divorce judgement, out of 13 million dollars in assets - Lisa was given 12 million and Tobia was given only 1 million - and this too was taken away against spousal support and child support owed. His spousal support of $80,000 per month and child support of $10,000 per month is based on imputed income of 1.25 million dollars per year. Where as he is retired since 2010, he is not working since 2010, he is 100% disabled since 2012, he receives $2800 per month in SSDI benefits and of this the State of New Jersey has been garnishing/levying approximately $1800 per month. He has not seen his children since July 2012! Lisa's attorney's have made over 2 million dollars, Tobia was represented by his counsel for about two years and after spending $500,000, he has been fighting ProSe.Every human being must earn his living by the sweat of his brow. Man and Woman - both are equal. Even in the military, women have fought for equality. But in family court the first thing a woman litigant is told by everyone is - you are not equal, and since in the process the woman litigant benefits financially, hence she willingly accepts that she is "inferior". I am a male. Lets consider this scenario. I am working and earning $30,000 a year. I marry a millionaire lady - who earns $1 million every year. I quit my job, take care of the home, after 5 years I file for divorce. I deserve spousal support of max $30,000 a year and, for a duration of max 2 years or less and, I must make very sincere efforts to find a job and earn my living myself ASAP. With great religious zeal, missionary zeal everyone fights for "Child Support". And with the same religious zeal everyone fights to deny the child the victim parent's love and care. Non payment of Child Support is considered the biggest sin, biggest crime; and denying the child the love and care of the victim parent - that is okay! Clearly this does not make any human sense.
Case Study: Kirsten C Church-FauquetOn 06/12/15, DCF (CPS) took away her 5 kids and placed them in foster care. In foster care all 5 were traumatized. After that for a year or two she had visitation with her kids. During one visit she noticed one child had broken bones and burn marks. Past 3 years she has not met 2 of them and she is not told where they are.
Family court and CPS child predators inflict trauma and irreparable harm on a child through two ways: (a) take one or both parents away. (b) suck the life out of one or both parents, drag the litigation out multiyear; cause one or both parents to be bankrupt, homeless, shell shocked -- a child sees and feels all this up close. (c) Forcing the child to tell lies to the Judge, Therapists, Psychologists, Court appointed parenting supervisors, etc. (d) Forcing the child to be abusive to the father in ways that are unheard of in human history such as - when the dad is standing mere 2 feet from the child, force the child, to ignore the presence of the dad one hundred percent. What is the Solution? In every civilized society we pass laws to uphold what is ethical, moral, just and fair; and if we correctly interpret and apply the law then at the end of the day we will succeed in upholding what is ethical, moral, just and fair. We need clear headed thinking. We need clarity of thought and action.The best Law is only as good as the person interpreting and enforcing it.No matter what law we pass or create, the criminals will find a loophole. Virtually every law impacting business revenues - upfront itself has loopholes inserted by powerful lobbying groups.No matter what we do, what laws we pass, how many laws we pass, -- there always will be crimes just as in every other sector.We need to understand the cause and effect, actions and response relationship between events.
Some laws are brilliantly sugar coated - such as those related to collecting child support (Social Security Act Title IV-D, etc.) Politicians proudly boasted - that this was "dead beat dad's" law, to help children get the financial support they need. Lies like these will go down in human history as some of the biggest and most shameless lies a government told its free people. The same politicians, judges and everyone never spoke a word about the child needing her father. Add to this - the real intent, the hidden intent of "dead beat dads" law, from the very beginning, was to beat the dads dead, make them work like slaves, so the law firms, psychologists, judges and the State can make money. The biggest challenge in solving any problem - when framing new laws is - how to counter the above two scenarios. There are lot of things to consider when framing new laws for combating crime. I have discussed this in my lectures and essays way back in 1980's - one was on, - The Science of Making Laws, The How and Why of Laws.
A very good example is -- family laws in Australia mandate 50-50, and lawyers, psychologists, Judges, etc., there have incorporated this into their business model to maximize revenues. So, no matter what laws are there, child predators know how to change their game, they fully validate Charles Darwin's theory of evolution - they adapt very rapidly to any changes in laws.
Every case is different. Every situation is different. There are no universal laws. Every law has an exception. There is an exception to every law. That is where a human steps in to correctly interpret the intent of the law and apply it correctly. At the end of the day, protecting a child would involve keep the child away from the mom or dad or both - depends on who is abusive, on who has committed a crime against the child and whether the crime merits such action which in some cases can be a "punishment to the child" as well.
Lets not drag in here and discuss - criminal situations. However false criminal allegations is the biggest loophole in family courts and those raising any false allegations - should be dealt with criminal charges - rogue parent, lawyers, therapists, psychologists and Judges. Every Judge knows when this is happening - when false allegations are being raised. The Judge encourages it whole heartedly, the judge infact mandates this and everyone up till the AG and Governor protects such Judges.
Do we need laws for - Right to breathe! Right to eat food! Right to shelter! Right to have children! Right to be a parent! Right of a child to have a Parent!
When identifying solutions we can follow the wisdom gained from leadership and management. The 80-20 rule in management says - 80% of the results are produced by focussing on 20% of the factors.
I need time to think and come up with suggestions, but here are some suggestions based on 80-20 rule:-
(1) ZERO SECRECY, Zero Gag Orders: There should be nothing secret in family courts. Every aspect of family court including children - should be open to public, one hundred percent. Judges say we need secrecy else children will be bullied in school.
Judges, CPS and all in government often say that it is not in the "Best Interests" of children if the father goes on social media and posts, "my dear baby girl, daddy loves you!" Where as children watch on live TV, their father or another child's father die from choke hold, knee to the neck, beaten to death or shot down, - right in front of their eyes.
Our constitution already grantees this, but in family courts - our constitution is flushed down the toilet.
This is incredibly important, the number one most important thing, not just for family courts but for all nations, for all civilized values:There should be nothing secret in family courts or anywhere. Every aspect of family court including children - should be open to public one hundred percent. Therapists, Psychologists, Parenting Supervisors, etc., everyone should audio record their sessions -- same as in court, same as the police body cams.In supervised visits, the parent should be allowed to take photo-video in a manner same as every other parent does.
Show me one Judge who says secrecy is in the "Best Interests" of the child and our investigation will show beyond a reasonable doubt, that this Judge is a Child Predator.Understand cause and effect. If a judge says - a parent writing on social media that he loves his children is not in the best interests of the children, then why take the children away. Let the parent see his children and then he will not post on social media.
(2) All laws, all policies, programs incentivising collection of child support should be scrapped right away. It makes no sense. There is no incentive to catch rapists and murderers but there is incredible incentive to "beat dads dead!"There are millions of children who have lost one or both parents to COVID, in military service, in natural disasters, etc. There are millions of children living below poverty line and not having even one meal a day. The government offers zero help!Not all single parents (who get 100% custody) are financially challenged. Any single parent earning over $40,000 can support herself and her kids. Every single parent of family court, can talk to the other loving parent and say "you have kids kids 50% of the time." (Please note, here we are discussing only financial matters - child support - which is the root cause of "greed" and almost all trauma in family courts)
The budget for child predator incentive, i.e. to collect child support is a billion dollars or more. In less than half that budget, not just family court, but all financially challenged children can be supported. Why cant our government do such a humane act!
(3) Spousal Support and Equitable Distribution of Marital Assets: The laws are there! And they need to be enforced from the very first day! Not 10 years later!
Let us understand the law. Two human beings Joe and Mary get together and start a software business - Abc Corp. When starting the business Joe puts in (invests) $1000, Mary puts in $2000. In the business for simplicity, lets say, Joe works as accountant and Mary works as software developer and both work 40 hours a week.
Q. What salary should Joe and Mary be paid? Assuming that business is making money, a fair way to decide how much Joe and Mary should be paid is - how much would they be paid if there were doing the same job in another company?
Q. Now lets assume, after 5 years, Joe and Mary decide to split, or for simplicity, lets say, they sell the business and each goes their own way. Assume the business is sold for $100,000. So do you think Joe and Mary should each get $50,000. How much each gets depends on (a) how much initial investment each one made. (b) what they worked as, how much value they added? (c) how many hours each worked.
If Joe and Mary were to get married and they separate after 5 years. How much spousal support and how much each gets from marital assets. Here again the law is exactly the same. That is why the law says "Equitable distribution". The law NEVER says, "Equal distribution". The words "Equitable" and "Equal" do not mean the same.
Beginning on day one, Lawyers and Judges begin extracting money out from man and giving it to the lady (assuming that the lady has less money) - this is done so that - (a) litigation gets stirred up, lawyers put in more hours and hence earn more. (b) Ability to pay. The lady now has money and can pay her lawyers.
In many cases virtually all of the money collected as child support, spousal support and from marital assets - goes into paying legal fees. For example in my case of marriage fraud, despite serious crimes, in past ten years Alina has been awarded and she collected over $600,000 in child support and spousal support, and over $600,000 from marital assets (despite she has negative equity in marital assets). Her legal bills till date have been more than $3 million. By the time the trial is over (hopefully by end of this year) the Judge may order I sell my retirement investment properties and pay her legal bills. Then after trial, if at all there is any honesty, the court will order that Alina repay me back over $4 million. The Judges, lawyers of Alina, Psychologists, Therapists, The State, etc., every one has pocketed the $4 million or more extracted from my pocket in past 10 years and now for rest of my life, I need to go to a different court, file another civil suit, to get Alina to pay the $4 million that the family court ordered. On the streets, a poor man will show a knife or gun and steal $10 from you. In Court, the Judge uses his cloak and gavel, passes illegal orders and easily steals millions of dollars from both litigants. If any business did the same as the government did in family courts, they would be sent to prison for fraudulent business practices.
(Back to the issue of child support) If father does not work, he is forced to work else put in jail. But no judge does this, -- to give the kids to the dad, force the mom to work and pay child support. The only reason this is not done, because this does not look good in news media. It is not easy to sell, "dead beat mom". Why in last 100 years we have not heard one case where a judge has said - You both are good parents, the children will have both parents 50-50, you both are working and earning nearly the same, hence both child support and spousal support is $0.00. The fact that in 100 years in over 200 million divorces this has never happened shows clear and convincingly that decisions are driven by "greed".
If a Judge rules 50-50 parenting and $0.00 support, then (a) Lawyers will be very displeased (b) all other judges and the judiciary itself will have that Judge removed. I have seen Judge Vito Sciancalepore moved from Family Court to Civil Court since in the false stalking and harassment case filed by Ukrainian Fraud Alina against me, Jude Vito ruled that Alina was a fraud and an incredible liar who told zero truth!
Millions of women have worked very-very hard, to get their rightful place as equal member in society.In my early 20's (in 1980's) one of my essay/lecture topic was "Female of the Species Homo Sapiens". Without going into much details, let us look at the female athletes in any sport including martial arts, and then lets count - how many males can outperform these female athletes?
In a typical activity at home or work, we dont want the same level as for the Olympic team. i.e. a lady can and should be able to do what ever a man can do.
When a lady enters family court, she is often told (in over 80% cases) that she is good for nothing, - the only skills she has, the only thing she can do is - take care of babies.
On the first day when a couple comes in family court, the Judge passes temporary orders (called pendente-lite)
They call it Child Support, spousal support. In reality the mom and dad are supporting an army of Judges, Lawyers, their staff, psychologists, therapists, etc.They call it equitable distribution of marital assets. In the team of Judges, Lawyers, psychologists, therapists, etc. are looking at the litigants assets and earnings, drooling, salivating, - how to extract and distribute that amongst themselves.
Child Support, spousal support, distribution of marital assets - all this stirs up litigation, increases litigation cost and time. All this causes incredible trauma to the parents and hence to the child. Child Support causes a child to lose a parent.
Who can join this group:-Any human being who is honest and humane qualifies to join. Anyone who can stand up and say: "Children should not be exploited, manipulated or abused in any way, shape or form, by anyone" -- will be a proud member of this movement.Take any movement, India's Freedom Struggle, Civil Rights Movement, ... Several Millions enlisted and participated. Each one was important.
About Myself:-I was born and raised in India. I lived in India for 34 years. I have been living in the U.S., since March 1995. My dad was a naval officer (in India). I grew up on a naval base. I graduated from the National Defence Academy (Top Military Academy). I did my Masters in Computer Science from IIT (Indian Institute of Technology, Powai. Top University). I served in the Indian Army for 11 years, left as a Captain on medical grounds. In March 1995 I came to U.S. on H1B Visa. For three years, I worked as a software engineer / architect in Bankers Trust, JPM Chase and Merrill Lynch. Along side my full time job in May 1996 I started SpaceAge a software services firm. I have been working 80 plus hours a week.At SpaceAge I combine social work with business - I train individuals who are unable to find work. I train them painstakingly for 12 or more months and then we provide software development services to clients such as Goldman Sachs, UBS, BOA, Credit Suisse, Merrill Lynch, etc. I have trained hundreds of software engineers, many having PhDs. I have also trained few professors as well.At SpaceAge as a Chief Software Architect and Chief Technology Officer, my work involves heavy weight logical thinking and teaching software engineers analytical, lateral thinking and problem solving skills.Along side my military career, beginning when I was 17 years old, I began devoting all my leisure time to social work / community welfare work -- studying and guiding the Mental, Moral, Psychological and Intellectual development of children and adults. This work involved developing human potential, creating an awareness and concern for key challenges facing the human species - degradation of the human mind (moral values) and degradation of the environment (climate change, pollution, population, etc.). This self undertaken work is very challenging intellectually. Typically, a Psychologist will do such work after their Ph.D. and how many would want to do such work and go on to do such work. LINKS -- Download My Book: Wisdom of The Ages. Published - July 2022. Protecting Children, Moms and Dads -- Download My Federal Complaint Filed in October 2022 - Stunning, Shocking, Chilling, must read for every human being. This Complaint has such facts that we dont need any further evidence, we dont need a trial, all we need is integrity and a teenager's intellect. Watch Live -- Bank Robbery - Bank of Malhan! www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/self-education-capt-surender-malhan Letter to President Joe Biden, Vice President Kamala Harris, Attorney General Merrick Garlandhttp://www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/letter-to-president-joe-biden The Greatest Intellectual and Moral Challenge: www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/greatest-intellectual-and-moral-challenge Zoom Meeting Invitation to President Joe Biden. www.MeTooChildrensRights.org/invitation-to-president-joe-biden Time Management. Communication Skills. Effective Communication. A 90+, Retired Naval Officer, COVID Positive Grand Father's Appeal to President Joe Biden Even in India's COVID Tragedy U.S. Judges and Attorneys find ways to make "MONEY"!www.facebook.com/surender.malhan.33www.LinkedIn.com/in/Capt-Surender-Malhan www.facebook.com/SpaceAge1www.facebook.com/CaptSurenderMalhan.ReadingForSelfDevelopmentwww.facebook.com/CaptSurenderMalhanSocialResponsibilitiesHumanBeing www.SpaceAgeGroup.com -- follow the link on left to Life On Earth.
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